another bit of non-sense

well, its fun as hell to face challenges where the only factor deciding your success is your own stubbornness (I have plenty of that).
however, it sucks to no end if said challenge has and x-factor that is not one's own will.
lets face it, in today day and age, there really isn't a community as we have had it before, no town dances, little to no public festivals, and the religious events are controlled by crazies. the traditional places of courting have dried up, leave us only the clubs and watering holes in which to meet some one. the selection of ladies in such places are usually not top notch and if she is, the ratio of male to female patrons increases the competition immensely. now you could try talking (if you can scream over the fucking lady Gaga, long enough). and if so, with her privilege she would most likely turn you down. this is the case for most guys in ages 18-28. hell name one girl you can find in that age range who is still and virgin vs the men. its simple, women have the advantage, they no guys want them, but retain the power of veto. now once they start hitting ages 30 and up then first signs of age hit them and the table turn. but what does that leave you? the looks that made you swoon are gone and the shallow woman who so easily rejected you is now only giving the attention she withheld in the past because she is running out of options.
what does that do to a guy, knowing that only desperation drives a woman to be with them?

I had noticed this pattern when I was younger, and at a naive age felt this existential weight in attempting relationships. it seemed that girls really, honestly, didn't like guys, only if they had money, or had no choice.

as you can imagine, that's still one of the things that makes my encounters with Asian girls so intense. its more that just the beautiful brown eyes, the dark hair... its the smile, they smile at me. its time I try to throw all the inhibitions that kept be and my feelings at arms length from a girl aside. if the girl smiles, you have a chance.

I'll admit, if this were merely a matter of persistence, stubbornness would win the day, however in this case, her feeling and view of you are the variable. you can build and empire, but you can't build some one else's love. it must be a two way road.

the question remains, work, resist urges and fight off loneliness, till you are in your 30's gain you looks and your money and then set out, for a woman who is still young, or move elsewhere. to another country, where you are exotic and the intrigue of the local ladies?

what's the course?